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Whosthedaddy |
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Whosthedaddy Super Spammer
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Posted: 13:51 - 07 Feb 2006 Post subject: Would you say I do? |
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Nearly 2 years ago I got myself a job as a nurse working in the 3rd best hospital in the States
It has taken a while to register to work in California, sending post backwards and forwards across the pond, then I had to pass(second time around) the entry exam.
I filed paper work for my Green card in the autumn, but the lawyers have contacted my Agent and said they would not be able to offer my GF a Green card as we are not married
As I'm not prepared to break up (and leave my 2 year old behind) just for a job.
In order to qualify under my Green card, we could get married
We have been together for 12 1/2 years, why get married now?
I am not really that happy to get married just as a means of getting the Green card.
Would anyone get married for a job? ____________________ Current : MSX 125 Past : CBR 900RR Monkeybike : c50 LAC : ZXR750 H2 : FZR600 : ZX7R P3 : YW100 : TRX850: Trophy 900 T309 : GSXR 600 L0: Monkeybike : XJ6S Whosthedaddy |
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Posted: 13:53 - 07 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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Why haven't you married her in the past?
I would say this is a very personal thing depending on your feelings of marriage.
It's something you both need to discuss together, if she's ok with it, and you are, then you can go for it obviously |
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Posted: 14:03 - 07 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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As said above by QoS, for the right move, it's a lifestyle choice, not a just a job. However, FWIW California divorce law means a 50/50 split if it doesn't work out
Best of luck ____________________ ...and the whirlwind is in the thorn trees, it's hard for thee to kick against the pricks...
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greatmoorred Nearly there...
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Posted: 15:57 - 07 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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In your situation, yes. Why not? You've been together long enough. Do you not like the concept of marriage or something?
Talk it out with her, if she wants to get married to you, go for the full she-bang, if she isn't worried but wants to stay over there, have a civil ceremony and go on like normal! |
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Whosthedaddy Super Spammer
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Posted: 16:08 - 07 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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To be honest I cant really remember the reason for not getting married
I dont see how marriage changes anything? I understand it offers security for my loved one and son etc, but to me its just a piece of paper
My GF is gagging for it, and has caused many arguments along the lines of 'why dont you love me....', 'why wont you show me any commitment?'. We've been together for such a long time, what more shows commitment? ____________________ Current : MSX 125 Past : CBR 900RR Monkeybike : c50 LAC : ZXR750 H2 : FZR600 : ZX7R P3 : YW100 : TRX850: Trophy 900 T309 : GSXR 600 L0: Monkeybike : XJ6S Whosthedaddy |
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Posted: 16:10 - 07 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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Thin ice then.
If you jump straight in now, she'll think you're only doing it because of the Green card. If you don't, she'll get booted.
I'd say talk it out, tell her it doesn't mean much to you, but if it helps you keep the life you have and gives her some security, you'll happily do it.
That's if you want to. |
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Posted: 16:54 - 07 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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Whosthedaddy wrote: | ...I dont see how marriage changes anything? I understand it offers security for my loved one and son etc, but to me its just a piece of paper.... |
Marriage does offer legal protection should you or your partner die - it clarifies who any pension, insurance, etc. goes to. It also clarifies who'll be guardian and responsible for any children.
There is no such thing (in law) as common law marriage. People who have assumed this have been caught out when their partner dies. It can cause a lot of grief, especially if children/step-children are involved.
To prevent that and still not get married you can go to a solicitor and for about an hour of their time (so that's £100 tp £150 then) get a piece of paper stating your relationship (I forget the actual legal words). Then that's ok should the worst happen.
FWIW I think long term relationships are more common know, especially as the government has done away with any meaningful tax and other incentives for getting married (you can be taxed seperate if both working, there's no "married man's" tax allowance, etc.). It's a shame this fact isn't being recognised, but then again the law is always lagging behind society.
Anyhow, either way, looks like you're better off with a piece of paper. Whether it's got marriage certificate on it is your choice.
HTH ____________________ ...and the whirlwind is in the thorn trees, it's hard for thee to kick against the pricks...
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Posted: 20:01 - 07 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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12 years? Feh. I've spent longer than that waiting outside shoe shops... ____________________ "That's it. You people have stood in my way long enough. I'm going to clown college."
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Reevo8 World Chat Champion
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Posted: 02:22 - 08 Feb 2006 Post subject: |
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Hmm, 2 year old kiddy, have been with the GF for 12.5 years. Why not get dressed up, make her dreams come true, make your work dreams come true. Sign a peice of paper and have a weeks honeymoon and a whole load of sex?
Look, you are pretty much a married couple anyway. It seems that if you are not willing to give the marraige thing a go then it would seem you are wanting to split up some time in the future and as such if you say you wont marry her much more as there is no point she will become pissed off and dissapear elsewhere! ____________________ 05 ZX10R, (**05 WKR) |
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Old Thread Alert!
The last post was made 18 years, 109 days ago. Instead of replying here, would creating a new thread be more useful? |
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